Benefit Concert in Utah Will Rock Socks

Monday, March 14, 2011

The Deseret News 

did a very lovely article about our story and why coming to this concert is so important. I hope you will read it. There are a few interesting comments that really stung. But I pulled up my britches and moved on. Maybe I'll cry about them later when I have time.

I want to show you the faces of the people you are helping by attending, but some of the checks we issue for headstones are surprises to the grieving family. I've said it before and I'll say it again--you are changing lives by supporting my organization. You know when you don't know what to say to someone who has lost a loved one? You know when you have those quiet moments of reflection when you put yourself in someone else's shoes and feel the weight of their loss? And you cry in your closet and say a prayer of thanks that your children are still with you? And you think..."I want to help, but how?" This is how. This is how all the unspoken words can be spoken and the weight of the burden you want to carry for someone else can be carried.

I will tell you this: There is a beautiful slide show with my 'angel family' friends that will play during my solo--in it you will see the faces of my fellow survivors and warrior mothers and fathers. I will share the video with all of you next week after the concert. You will be moved to tears and hopefully to action. There is no time to be wasted away from the connection of the human family. There is nothing more to this crazy life.

Also, did I mention there will be a brief reception following the concert with delicious food and the opportunity for me to pinch your bum? Please let me. I really want to meet all of you.

It is interesting that this story was published today. Peter's "Lucy Day", for lack of a better term. Today he is the exact age as Lucy when she choked.

If you have nothing better to do tonight, you could tune into KNRS Salt Lake AM Radio and listen to an 8 minute interview with me and Ron Arquette. My husband's conservative talk-radio dreams are coming true. His Democrat wife will not just be listening to talk radio, she'll be ON it. Heaven help us all.
At least I'll be in good graces with the in-laws, and hopefully my mother and sister will not disown me.

{All joking aside, its really just an interview about our story and the benefit concert and a great opportunity to get the word out. Tickets are selling fast. Let's hope I can seat everyone. If not, you can take the stage with me.}


  1. Molly,

    It was a very nice article. Don't worry about the nincompoop leaving judgmental and ignorant comments. He is not worth your tears. He has no idea what he's talking about and is emboldened by his sense of anonymity on a website. His concern is not for helping families but for making himself feel important. I pray he won't add to your pain and that this weekend will feel like the triumph it is meant to be!
    You're going to do great on that radio interview by the way! Maybe they will even win you over to the right side. :) Much love to you guys.

  2. I shouldn't even acknowledge those horrible comments about the wonderful article on deseret news. But they made me so mad!! I wanted to find out who they were and go punch them in the nose. People can be such jerks. I just wanted you to know that....I am still shaky with anger. The benefit is going to be great. We are having babysitting you know how long the actual concert will last? I want to make sure I have time to meet you afterwards as well.

  3. The entire concert will only be 90-95 minutes. Less is more. And I want people to have their evening back. Especially on a weeknight.

  4. Hi Molly,

    I saw the comments that stung. It made me wonder how many times I have said insensitive things to people without having all the facts. I hope I haven't ever done it, but I'm sure I have. Please don't let people who hide behind anonymous comments ruin your day! Those of us who know and love you know the truth.

    I'm so happy to hear that you'll share the video with us next week since I won't be able to make it to the concert! I know the whole event will be incredible.

    I'll be listening tonight! Good luck! (Or do I say "break a leg" when it's the radio...?)

  5. Those comments were horrible! I'm so sorry you had to read them. What horrible people! I am so angry at them.
    Thank you for doing what you are doing. It is a great thing.

  6. I'm furious. Disgusted. Horrified that you had to see those comments. I think some people don't want to accept that life not in our control and bad things will happen no matter what we do. It's easier for them to think that they have the answer, that it wouldn't happen to them because they would do X thing differently. It must be nice to be that delusional.

    It has nothing to do with you, Molly. It's their own fear. Deep down they know you did everything right and that's what terrifies them. I hope you know that.

    The concert sounds beyond amazing and every time you post about it I'm so sad that I live states away. I can't wait to hear about it!

  7. Molly,
    I love what you are doing obviously and loved the article. I plan on making some comments of my own. Can't wait until Thursday.

  8. It was a great article, and you are doing such amazing things! It was hard to read those comments because I could almost hear them directed to me, especially since the bacon Caydin choked on wasn't the size of a pea! But, if I can get over the sting in the words themselves what I REALLY hear that person saying is that they are so terrified of something happening to them or their family that they are trying to convince themselves it can NEVER happen to them because they won't let it. It is sad really because if anything ever does happen to them, they will be the ones who can't handle it (not that ANY of us ever thought we'd be able to handle it either)! We have our faith, and we can't let the faithless shake it, even with the low blows!!

  9. After having a couple of family members in the news I have learned the hard way....DON'T READ THE COMMENTS! People are sad and need a life and have nothing better to do than judge a situation they know nothing about(and they probably don't have children!). I have 5 children and have never thought twice about feeding them an apple at age 2! You are amazing, thank you for all the good you are doing!

  10. I'm with Diana...the judgmental comments are from those with the "it can't happen to me" attitude. Then crap does happen.

    Harsh critics are also judged harshly. How they judge others is how they will also be judged.

    Sleep well tonight Molly. Accidents happen. God loves you and your family, friends and readers love you.

  11. I am so excited about this concert, Molly! I wish we could be there, but I'm so excited for the energy & purpose of the evening: what a treat for everyone who gets to be there!! Can't wait to read and see pics from the evening.

    The article was fabulous, well written and perfect. Comments are never worth reading. I'm sorry for the extra pain that they have caused. Just.LAME!

    Overall message in my comment here: YOU, LUCY, VIC, & PETER are amazing. Love to you all.

  12. Molly I have loved following your blog and I have been so inspired by your story and your family. Thank you for using your grief to help others. I want you to know that you have made a difference in my life. I know I can get through hard things because I've watched you do it. So thank you. I'm sorry some people don't understand that accidents happen, but all of the previous comments are correct. . . they don't deserve your tears and if you can just ignore them. I'm not going to be able to make it to the concert, but I'm excited to hear about it :) Thank you for all you do to share your life with the rest of us.
    ~Kimberly P.

  13. Molly,
    I think they have removed the negative comments. (thank goodness). But I want to let you know that there are people who search articles and purposely say mean things. It's like hate crimes on the internet. They love to get people arguing with them. They are the exception, for every mean comment that is made there are 1,000 of us who honor your courage and love Lucy.


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