Tell Me

By Molly Bice-Jackson - 12:43 PM


"Do not cheat thy heart and tell her, "Grief will pass away, Hope for fairer times in the future, and forget today"... tell her if you will, that sorrow need not come in vain: Tell her that the lesson taught her far outweighs the pain."

Does it? Today the pain outweighs it all. But oh, the lessons learned are so sacred. So powerful. Why is the price of learning so high? Today my body and soul are remembering what came into my life June 11, 2006.

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  1. No answers for you...just love. Wish I could make it better for you...but maybe that would rob you of something. Vic said it best... quoting his prompting...nothing is going to happen that shouldn't! Sending love.

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  2. May I suggest this special, edited version: "...tell her, if you will, that sorrow need not come in vain: tell her to embrace the lesson and respect the pain."

    Because the lesson doesn't outweigh the pain, nor does it lessen the reality of it. But the lesson IS the lasting treasure that gives pain meaning.

    And finding meaning is what brings healing. Because life that has meaning is always beautiful.

    =)

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  3. Happy Birthday Lucy! We miss you. Never have truer words been spoken than "life's too short..."

    May we recommit to make the most of our days in honor of those whose days were cut short.

    (Sending our love to Uncle Cousin Vic and Miss Molly)

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  4. Happy 4th Birthday to Lucy.

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  5. Remember that "your" pain is not in vain...because of you...so many more people appreciate what they have, I know I personally do. Your family is in my prayers tonight and every night.

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  6. That was beautiful. YOu are beautiful. Lucy is beautiful.

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  7. I think this is the first time I've ever commented, but I am a friend of your SIL Kristyn...she went to school with my husband. We've come close to losing our son a few times this last year as he's gone through 3 open heart surgeries and I ache for you always when I read your posts of missing your sweet Lucy. I think of this scripture often when I read your posts- Romans 8:18. I bet you long for that day and I don't blame you...and I love what was said in the comment above about respecting the pain. That rings so so true. Whenever we speak of painful experiences in life, there must be a reverence about us...and you and your husband do just that. I really like the thoughts expressed by Vic in a few posts back about there being more value in everyday experiences than we realize. I haven't stopped thinking about that and it's changed some of my perspective on little things. I think of your posts and your experiences often and I know that there are hundreds more that do so as well but just don't know what to say. Our prayers are with you and your family.

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  8. So sorry... I like to think about that reunion that you will have with her and how sweet that will be. Although I'm sure it seems like such a painfully long wait. Love you.

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  9. Happy Birthday, sweet Lucy dear. Our hearts hold tightly to that smile you shared with us that day we came to visit you & your Mom in Park City.

    BIG hugs for you, Molly & Vic.

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  10. Beautifully written, so simple and so true. Your honesty and power has picked other's off the floor from their grief. May the angels surround you, may Lucy hold you in her arms as this day comes and goes as it always will. Hopefully we can pull you off the floor, if only to remember!

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  11. I can't imagine your pain... dear Mother of Lucy. I really like what Sue said (comment #3).

    My heart hurts for you and my thoughts are with you all Jackson family.

    ToOdLeS.

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  12. I wish we could be there for her party. She will always be part of you.

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  13. My husband is a June 11 baby too......, it is also the day he lost his mom from breast cancer on his third birthday. It is a very special day, but incredibly sad and bittersweet every year for him as well. You will be in my thoughts. I think he is blessed to share a birthday with an angel like your Lucy. You are an inspiration....truly.

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  14. Molly,
    Your sharing of your raw feelings and thoughts touch so many people. Today is a difficult day for you... and the pain is tangible through your writing. Know that I am praying for you; that the grief may give way to peace. (I'm better with French ;) Je prie pour que ton coeur soit rempli de paix, sachant que ton ange te surveille d'en haut.) I love you.

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  15. Happy Birthday Lucy.
    You are loved.

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  16. Patience Is Enduring Well

    June 9, 2010
    “Patience is not passive resignation, nor is it failing to act because of our fears. Patience means active waiting and enduring. It means staying with something and doing all that we can—working, hoping, and exercising faith; bearing hardship with fortitude, even when the desires of our hearts are delayed. Patience is not simply enduring; it is enduring well!”

    Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Continue in Patience,”

    Patience Is Enduring Well

    June 9, 2010
    “Patience is not passive resignation, nor is it failing to act because of our fears. Patience means active waiting and enduring. It means staying with something and doing all that we can—working, hoping, and exercising faith; bearing hardship with fortitude, even when the desires of our hearts are delayed. Patience is not simply enduring; it is enduring well!”

    Dieter F. Uchtdorf, May 2010. Ensign.

    You are enduring well Molly! Thinking of you and little Lucy on her birthday today.

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  17. Molly,
    I've been reading your blog for nearly 2 years and have never commented. I'm coming out of lurkdom to let you know I'm thinking of you today. Happy Birthday precious Lucy.

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  18. Molly,

    My heart hurts for you and I have been thinking of you this past month. I so admire your honesty and openess. You truly are changing people and enlightening people to this horrible grief. I am in anger mode also, nearly three years in. We need to meet! I don't know if this might help but for me lately I have tried to visualize my Cameron NOW, not on earth how he would be or not how he was but who he is now. His adult spirit busy and needed on the other side. It helps a bit to regain my perspective and also makes me feel closer to him. Praying for you today, and really let's meet....

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  19. Happy birthday sweet Lucy! Molly, sigh, thoughts and prayers with you and Vic!
    Diana
    Caydin's mom

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  20. Kisses Molly. I love you. James' birthday is on the 26th. He would be 6. Don't be too hard on yourself Molly. It's only been what, two years? I am in my fourth year, and I am just starting to make sense of the suffering. I felt that the Lord had to break me down completely, to my foundation and start building me again into what he wanted me to become. It took me a significant amount of time to accept. It was my anger at the world and God and everyone who couldn't relate that made me miserable. And that's okay!It's a natural part of grief. You are doing so well and look at HOW MANY LIVES YOU, and LUCY and VIC are touching. She is not forgotten. You are keeping her alive. She smiles down at you and is so proud of you. Hang in there sweet lady. There is a rainbow after the storm. I promise. Once you see it, you will never ever take for granted happiness and sunshine again. It's like you will eat and breathe happiness and you will relish in every second of the warmth of the sunbeams. Because the cost is so high that we have paid to learn to be happy again it will be valued above everything in this earth. Your Heavenly Father is there for you, I don't know about you, but I questioned that for a really long time. Love to you Miss Molly. I will always be grateful for what you have taught me, even though you are a rookie and I am a veteran, you have taught me so much. Love,
    Michelle

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  21. Just met you by chance this morning, been thinking of you all day with a bit more love in my heart for my own children, praying for you and all your sweet family tonight as you go forward with faith.

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  22. Because of your story, I am a better mom.

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