Meet Michelle

Friday, January 30, 2009
This next email I received isn't actually an email. I stole it...from a friend's blog. As you may have noticed, if you look to your right, you will see a link to a blog called "Angels Among Us". It is a private blog for men and women who have lost young children. I'm sorry for you that it is private. It is phenomenal and heart-wrenching and heart warming all at the same time. I have a feeling you would learn loads about love and loss, a mother's heart, and friendship if you could take a peek inside. It is a safe place for us(mostly the mommys) to share the full spectrum of our feelings. This roller coaster ride of grief is an enormous machine. There is no judging or is simply about sharing. And ALL THE WOMEN ARE AMAZING. Their stories would break your hearts over and over and over--hopefully emblazoning upon your whole souls the truthfulness that everyday is a gift.

Through this blog, as well as through mutual friends, the very first person I "met" and "heard of" who had also lost a child was Michelle Krainich. Her son fell out of their condo window while she was breastfeeding her newborn baby. It absolutely rips you to shreds inside if you let yourself think about it much. But like all the incredible women I have met from this blog, Michelle is a fighter and she doesn't give up. It's been over two years for her and I am amazed at her strength. I look up to her as a "veteran" and call her just to hear that "things will get better."

So this is one of her recent blog posts she wrote about a mutual friend of ours. Some of you may know him too.

"I would like you to meet my best friend. His name is Grief. We met each other unexpectedly and became friends instantly. He follows me wherever I go. When I go to sleep at night he tucks me in and whispers in my ear, "I'll see you in the morning." When I awake surely he has held true to his promise and greets me with a frown. He frowns because he is sad he had to meet me. He is the most loyal friend in the world. You can forget him for a while and not even think about him and he is willing to return at the drop of a dime. Grief is unselfish though. When other friends are around, he takes a back seat. He is quieted by the chattering of my other friends. It's nice to have a break from Him. Sometimes he's unrelenting and can be a drag. Other times I am grateful he's my friend because when he's around I know I haven't Forgotten.

A while back he was my very best friend. Slowly other friends are taking his place and he doesn't visit as often. I have even made friends with Joy again. I thought I had lost her friendship forever. Joy is a good friend too. Hopefully one day I will be able to be as good friends with Joy as I was with Grief. Maybe one day we can all be friends and share the same heart. To live in the Joy of today, to remember the grief of yesterday and to love all of my tomorrows. When all three of us can attain the same heart, I know our new best friend will be peace."
-Michelle Krainich

P.S. (This is a big P.S.!) Michelle is a photographer in the Salt Lake Valley. She is currently doing a FREE photo shoot giveaway. Simply go to this link and leave a comment with your email address. Why not? I'm hoping I win so I can get photos of my pregnant belly for my birthday next month. (Which means I am very close to being one year older. Which makes me happy. One gift that has come out of this is I can't wait to grow old).


  1. Sweet Molly, I can't read your blog without crying, but I want to thank you for it...because when I get wrapped up in the business of life, and the hustle and bustle of kids and family "drama", your words make me feel human, they bring me down to earth again, they remind me of the sacred and special things in life, and the immense blessings we all have. Each time I read your thoughts, the spirit is strong, it's the same feeling as when I open and read the scriptures. I can imagine there are days when you feel unwise and weak, but I want you to know your words are filled with power and wisdom. You are truly an instrument in the hands of God, as is your dear sweet Lucy. Her life and spirit have so much power over the grave, and her influence is felt strongly in my life.
    Thank you for sharing that spirit with the world.

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  3. Molly, I had seen Michelle's blog through yours and through a link on another friend of mine's blog. She sounds like a beautiful, amazing person. I am so gald you have found some good friends who can relate to what you are going through.

    I love what you have done with your blog, the colors, and the pictures at the top. That is such a beautiful picture of you.

    I continue to be inspired and amazed at your words. Thanks SO much for sharing them with me. And thank you for your comforting comments on my blog about Kate. I really appreciate them.

    Love you,

  4. Thinking of you,
    Thank you for sharing these words Take care ~ love and hugs Tabitha XX

  5. You are far too kind to me Miss Molly. Your strength truly amazes me. I am amazed at your unending faith and dedication to God, yourself, your husband and your future husband. You have been a strength to so many people because of your experience. Truly, you had a mission in being Lucy's mommy, you will teach the world about love, compassion, grief and eternal families through your sweet ways, your amazing spirit and your inner(and outer) beauty. Much love.

  6. Sorry, that last comment was supposed to be from my personal blog not my photography blog:)

  7. I clicked over and read some of your friend's blog. She seems like a pretty great person with a husband to match. (That's another thing you share in common with her...a terrific husband!)

    I am truly enjoying this series of posts and hope you will keep them coming. Thanks, Molly.

  8. True, too true, those who know Grief feel how true her words are.

  9. Molly- thank you for sharing this. I follow your blog even though you don't know me. I pray for you and your family and I share in your grief and your joys. We lost my father very unexpectedly not too long ago and many of us still are still struggling. So I hope you don't mind but I shared your friends story of her friend with my family.

  10. That was so perfectly worded and true. The story below was unbelievably powerful. I am so grateful for you....Please give Vic our love. I love every picture of your perfect belly. Thank you for your strength

  11. I have never commented. I have lurked for awhile now. I must say I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is so hard to lose a child. I wish I did not have this in common with you. I lost my twins a little over a year ago. I lost Ella in the womb and Ava six weeks after birth. I have emailed Michelle and read her blog a lot. I love the things she has to say. She is amazing women and writer. So are you. I get strength from you guys. Thanks for being so real. Also, Do you know how I could be invited to the Angels Amoung us blog. I really would love to read it. Please email me at laceytorgerson (at) yahoo (dot) com

  12. Molly..sitting here with tears in my eyes you are truly a special woman with a husband of gold and with a child who was so sweet and gentle beyond belief. I am thankful that I am a part of your family I wasnt there for you when you needed comfort but I pray you forgive me for that..I was touched beyond words by this posting and the one for wed the 28th you are helping me see things through different eyes when it comes to the church and losing a child it gives me comfort to read your blogs ..I love you Molly dear with all my heart.. Thank you for sharing your pain and love you and Vic's have Lucy and Peter soon to be here..
    Love, Aunt Linda

  13. want you to know that i spotlighted you on my blog today. thanks for your great examples and strength... i admire you greatly.

  14. Such an accurate description of that "friend".

    What a blessing for you to have a friend like Michelle.


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